Good afternoon eveyone!
It is the first time that I am posting something in the noon, but I couldn't help it!
I am so angry! Since I can't talk it out, I'll settle this out with myself first.
So, you are at work, and suddenly you are given the golden opportunity to climb one level up. Yes, you worked your ash up/played it tricky/manipulated your boss/were just lucky god damnit, and now your are assigned to do something new, in a different but higher position. You have a new team. An they are here to guide you through.
So, time passes by and you are still waiting for people to notice you. To give you some responsibility. You get paid, but you do nothing. Someone might say: "hey, that's ideal" but the truth is that the situation is ideal *at first*.
So when? When will it be your turn to do stuff? When? You thought now, but people are having their meetings behind your back. You are lost, you've learnt nothing and there's nothing you can do.
So you're angry. Yes, you are and so am I! I am so angry and I can't seem to calm myself down no matter what I do. But I must get over it. Should I punch someone? Hmmm, not a good idea.
So, I searched all over the net, and I found the perfect article about how to handle your anger. 14 things you can do. I post it here and I hope that knowledge will spread and spread, and will eventually help some other angry people like myself.
Here it goes:
It is the first time that I am posting something in the noon, but I couldn't help it!
I am so angry! Since I can't talk it out, I'll settle this out with myself first.
So, you are at work, and suddenly you are given the golden opportunity to climb one level up. Yes, you worked your ash up/played it tricky/manipulated your boss/were just lucky god damnit, and now your are assigned to do something new, in a different but higher position. You have a new team. An they are here to guide you through.
So, time passes by and you are still waiting for people to notice you. To give you some responsibility. You get paid, but you do nothing. Someone might say: "hey, that's ideal" but the truth is that the situation is ideal *at first*.
So when? When will it be your turn to do stuff? When? You thought now, but people are having their meetings behind your back. You are lost, you've learnt nothing and there's nothing you can do.
So you're angry. Yes, you are and so am I! I am so angry and I can't seem to calm myself down no matter what I do. But I must get over it. Should I punch someone? Hmmm, not a good idea.
So, I searched all over the net, and I found the perfect article about how to handle your anger. 14 things you can do. I post it here and I hope that knowledge will spread and spread, and will eventually help some other angry people like myself.
Here it goes:
How to Calm Down
from wikiHow - The How to Manual That You Can Edit
When we are stressed, depressed, or mad, we don't always know what to do. Here's how to cope with strong emotions and calm yourself down.
Steps
- Gently and quietly, breathe through your nose and back out through your mouth for as long as you're angry or disturbed. If you feel light headed, slowly stop. However, if you are very emotional and breathing too fast, use a paper lunch bag to breathe into to slow your system down.
- Shake your shoulders to release tension.
- Lay down in a safe place. Close your eyes and listen to slow music to take your mind off of emotional pressure. Let all tension in your forehead, neck and hands fade away slowly. Imagine every part of your body relaxing. Start with your head and move downward.
- Take a piece of paper to write logically about what has happened and list steps of action to sort it out properly. After you write it down, shred it and throw it away. It's symbolic of throwing away those feelings you just want to get out.
- Take time to privately relax, meditate, or pray. Great peace comes through purposely focusing on quieting one's being without worrying about distractions of the world.
- Squeeze a stress ball, sponge, or other pliable object at least 50 times.
- Take a walk outside alone. Go to a store or the park or even your backyard! A good breath of fresh air always feels good.
- Hit something, not someone! Kick your sofa or punch a pillow, but never a person or an animal.
- Realize that you can not control what will happen today. Know that you can control how you react to the problems that will happen every day. When you find yourself getting anxious, worried or stressed because life seems to be out of control, pause, take a few deep breaths and then tell yourself a positive affirmation such as: "Life is crazy but I am calm." Repeat this ten times and you will sense calm.
- Carry a picture with you of an image that makes you feel calm in a crazy world. It should have scenes of nature, not people. Some people find images of water very calming. Carry this in your purse, wallet or briefcase, and keep it with you. Whe you sense you are getting anxious, you have the calm image available to look at while using your positive affirmation. Place a calm photo image at your office desk and look at it several times in the day while saying a positive affirmation like "Life is crazy but I am calm."
- Make it a goal to live more and stress less. Remember, you manage your feelings. Don't let your feelings and worry manage you!
- Consider events in your childhood: How has your upbringing contributed to how you react and feel about the world? Think of traumatic, crazy events that occurred between age 5-10 and isolate them. Write them down on a piece of paper, crumple it and throw it out.
- Identify the people in your life who are making you feel like the world is out of control and consider what TV shows, websites and media you view or listen to that make you feel like the world is crazy. Surround yourself with other people who are calm!
- Think about the situation from a different perspective that doesn't result in you being so stressed. Consider the points of view of others around you.
Tips
- Try pausing before reacting and breathing before speaking.
- If you can not control your emotions at all, seek professional help through a psychologist.
- If you work in a stressful environment, ask your employer to offer anger management courses.
- When a chaotic event or person confronts you, do not immediately react. Instead, visualize the word "calm" and repeat it internally 3 times before reacting calmly.
- Try spending time with a pet or someone who can make you feel better easily, but don't take your anger out on them.
Warnings
- Be steady and think twice before you do anything in haste. Calm is steadiness.
- Be careful not to take out your anger on others. You'll regret it once you are back to feeling good.
Related wikiHows
- How to Be Down to Earth
- How to Support Friends When They Are Down
- How to Be Calm in a Stressful Situation
- How to Stay Calm when Other People Give You the Finger when You're Driving
- How to Find Peace
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