Hello to the vast void!
It's been a while I gather since my last post. For the love of God, it's almost a year! I read some of my previous posts before writing this one, and I must admit I am astonished with the drama and the tears and the tears.
Funny thing is, that if you got to know me, you wouldn't guess that this blog is mine. I am not the crybaby you see in this posts. I am the strong, independent, trendy girl you wish to be. But this blog is a relief. I truly believe the stronger you are, the bigger the crack when you break, so you must have a place to write it your thoughts out loud. So you wont lose your mind.
Recently I found that friends even though they are nice, cannot support you if they are used to knowing that you always have the answers. I do not get it really. I am a sane person, but I make mistakes and sometimes even though I know the right to do, I can't seem to do it. It is a pity, but I am only human.
I have one friend in particular whom I've come to consider stupid. It is an interesting case that when she had the same problem I was there giving solutions and hope, and now that I am in the same position, all I get is "do not mind with him, just get over it it's nothing". Ahhhh, that was *so* helpful. I'm so glad we are friends :-P , I mean of course it's nothing, it's not your problem, and of course I won't mind him. He is a stupid jerk (like yours) but I know that better than you apparently so we do not need to bother!
Seriously, people, if you want to be someone's friend, try to play the part with all your heart. When your friend has a problem:
(a) listen
(b) I mean it: LISTEN!
(c) take him seriously. If he could handle the problem for himself, he wouldn't have come to you in the first place
(d) tell him if he is stupid, but tell him *why*. Put that in bullets. Enumerate the reasons so that he will understand
(e) understand him. In your heart you must know, that there are behaviors we cannot control. We are doomed to mistakes, always and every time
(f) do not be judgmental. At least do not be *only* that.I can tell you that for every mistake I made, I have mentally beaten myself up a million times before letting a friend know about it. I do not need another beating, I need you to help me to heal.
(g) try and work out a solution. You know your friend's weaknesses, and you can look at the problem as an outsider. That is huge! It means you can help. So please do!
I didn't intend this post to be a guide to friendship, but since it has emerged like that, I'm leaving it as is. I'll cry about the stupid asshole in a next post. For the record, let me just say this: I hope he burns in hell.-
I have tons of things to do, but it is time to sleep :)
So goodnight everyone. I'm hoping that tomorrow will be lighter on your shoulders than today.
